Two in the bed with different temperatures

Short answer: Use two single duvets instead of one double. It is the only solution that lets each of you choose your own weight without compromise, so both of you can sleep with the warmth that suits you best.

Why a shared duvet does not work

Two adults give off different amounts of heat and have different comfort zones. A shared duvet can only sit in one place on the scale, so one of you is cold or the other sweats all night. It is not a question of who is right. It is simply two bodies that each need their own solution.

The solution with two duvets

Two single duvets in a double bed let each person choose their own weight. The one who feels cold takes a thick duvet, and the one who runs warm takes a light one. It also solves the problem of one person pulling the duvet over. See bamboo bedding if you want covers for both duvets.

Which size single duvet

One hundred and forty by two hundred centimetres is the common Danish size for a single duvet. Two of them lie side by side in a double bed, so each person has their own. Always measure your bed before you buy, so you can see how the duvets sit in relation to the mattress and the edge.

Do two duvets look messy

They do not have to. If both duvets have covers in the same colour and are laid out neatly, the bed looks tidy and unified. Many find it looks calmer than one big duvet that has been pushed sideways during the night. It mostly comes down to the covers matching each other.

Two different covers

You can have two different covers if you have different tastes. It is easier to keep track of the washing if the covers are identical, though, because then they can be swapped and used across. With identical covers, you can always take the next clean one from the cupboard without thinking about whose it is.

The sheet underneath

A shared sheet is still fine. A bamboo sheet draws heat away from the skin and helps the warmer of you without bothering the other. It needs no extra duvet and no extra measuring, only a fabric that feels cool. See bamboo sheets and bamboo envelope sheets if you want to begin at the bottom.

When the season changes

With two duvets you can also adjust separately when the season changes. One of you can switch to a light summer duvet while the other keeps a slightly thicker one. It is a flexible way to have a bed that suits both of you, without anyone having to give up on sleep or comfort.

Washing and changing

Two duvets mean two covers to wash, but that is rarely a problem. Wash them according to the label and keep a spare set ready if you like, so changing is easy. Shake the covers out after washing and hang them up smooth. That way they stay nice and the bed looks tidy every morning.

Getting started

Start by talking about how warm each of you sleeps, and choose the duvets accordingly. Buy identical covers if you want a unified bed, and a shared sheet that leads heat away. Try the arrangement for a couple of weeks and adjust if it does not suit you. That is how you find out whether it works.

Frequently asked questions

Do two duvets look messy?

Not if they are the same colour and laid out neatly. Matching covers make the bed look unified, and no shared duvet gets pushed sideways in the night.

Which size single duvet?

One hundred and forty by two hundred centimetres is the common Danish size. Always measure the bed first, so you know how the duvets fit your mattress.